Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. ~ Rumi
For all my life, I believed that my mate should have this or that quality for our relationship to work out. I was picky about the kinds of qualities I wanted in a man.
I woke up to the realization that Rumi is right ~ my pickiness was merely my way of putting up barriers to opening my heart completely to a man. I was afraid. I was afraid that he could do or say something that would break me. I was afraid that in embracing the one I was with, I would be keeping myself from the 'perfect' one: a man who would have every quality that would delight me forever. Ha, the truth is, I was just afraid!
Over time, I fell in love with myself. Interestingly, when you love yourself, fear subsides. I mean, who can hurt you really when you adore yourself without reservation? So I decided it was time to leap by opening my heart up wide. I chose to see the man in my life with my heart wide open and to receive him as he really is. Ah, so easy to fall in love with someone that way! When we regard someone with an open heart, we see only their beauty!
It is magical now to be in this relationship. He is still the same person (and lest you be in doubt, he has many of the qualities I desire). We irritate one another sometimes and argue now and again. However, my vision that has changed. I see him through the eyes of love, and as such, although neither of us is perfect, our relationship is. It is a perfectly evolving entity. The perfection was there all along, in the perception of the heart.
Love you all,
Christine
For all my life, I believed that my mate should have this or that quality for our relationship to work out. I was picky about the kinds of qualities I wanted in a man.
I woke up to the realization that Rumi is right ~ my pickiness was merely my way of putting up barriers to opening my heart completely to a man. I was afraid. I was afraid that he could do or say something that would break me. I was afraid that in embracing the one I was with, I would be keeping myself from the 'perfect' one: a man who would have every quality that would delight me forever. Ha, the truth is, I was just afraid!
Over time, I fell in love with myself. Interestingly, when you love yourself, fear subsides. I mean, who can hurt you really when you adore yourself without reservation? So I decided it was time to leap by opening my heart up wide. I chose to see the man in my life with my heart wide open and to receive him as he really is. Ah, so easy to fall in love with someone that way! When we regard someone with an open heart, we see only their beauty!
It is magical now to be in this relationship. He is still the same person (and lest you be in doubt, he has many of the qualities I desire). We irritate one another sometimes and argue now and again. However, my vision that has changed. I see him through the eyes of love, and as such, although neither of us is perfect, our relationship is. It is a perfectly evolving entity. The perfection was there all along, in the perception of the heart.
Love you all,
Christine
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